We are beings made up of body and mind. When we kiss someone, our whole body is focused on it and yet at the same time, our mind yearns for a true joining of body and soul, for love feelings.
Sounds too far fetched? Well, let's analyze it. What is a kiss but lips on lips and if there was no emotion involved, it would have as much meaning as a hand shake and you wouldn't be sitting here reading this book.
Especially where girls are concerned, their whole focus is on the magical kiss they will experience at the hands of their dream love.
Even though in real life, girls do not have love feelings with every boy they kiss, yet in their hearts of hearts they long to discover that 'he' is the 'One'. They dream of kisses, of soft, gentle awakenings and passionate melding of mouths.
Being a good kisser isn't just about technique, and there are a few other factors involved in it before you actually kiss:
Touching and caressing is very important,
The place and the timing has to be just right.
The type of kiss you are going to plant on her lips will make or break your relationship.
And last but not least, the love feelings you bring to your kiss will determine how a girl will respond to you.
Love Feelings: Emotions During Kissing
Men and women have different expectations from a kiss. Most men tend to think of it as a stopover on the way to the real stuff, breasts and between the legs.
If proper sex is not involved, then men will concentrate on kissing a woman properly but even then their attention will be on reaching tits and ass.
Women on the other hand, enjoy kissing per se. It doesn't have to lead to anything else. Kissing by itself can be pleasurable on its own. Even when sex is involved, most women enjoy being kissed, just for the love feeligns, until they are sufficiently aroused.
That said, if during a kiss you instantly move on to B&B (breast and butt) then the moment is lost for your date and for sure she is not going to be in a hurry to kiss you again.
Not only that, she will hesitate to be affectionate, express love feelings, caress and kiss you for fear you will misunderstand her and think she wants more. If she puts a stop to it, then in all probability you will consider her a tease,
which is again an erroneous assumption.
So what are the love feelings that go through the mind of a girl during kissing?
Love feelings and being loved:
Concern (at being misunderstood)
Vulnerability (at being taken advantage of)
And worry, that she doesn't know enough or is doing it properly.
Compare that with the love feelings that go through your mind, when you kiss a girl.
* Is the prime emotion a feeling of having 'scored' or are you more concerned with how you and your partner are feeling? Does your hand automatically stray far below, or do you spend time caressing the no erotic zones, like the back, shoulder, neck, cheeks etc.
(Important: The no erotic zones are the doors to her heart. Rub the doors with sincere and gently affection, and the doors swing open, which can often leads to much more!)
Your answer to these questions will enable you to judge for yourself what kind of kisser you truly are.