Naturally you cannot goof your way into kissing, but humor does have its place and its plus points. So what exactly should you say, before/after/and during kissing?
Well it can vary from a deep, intense silence, to just jokingly pulling close and sharing a quick kiss, to verbally stating the fact ... it all depends – on the situation and the man.
So let's check out a few approaches:
Psychology of Words - Before Kissing
Humor as in The Laughing Kiss: Humor is a great way to break down barriers. Imagine laughing over something together and how just by accident your arms brush each other's or you sort of end up closer. If your faces are kissing distance apart and he is looking down at you, just tilt your face up and plant a quick kiss on his mobile mouth. It'll be more fun because it is unexpected and there is no pressure on either of you to respond or take it deeper ... yet. Great for a first kiss and for shy people. Go for it gals, no man is going to reject you when he is laughing with you.
Casual but not so Casual in its Effect Kiss: A casual kiss or kisses can take place over an evening and actually you don't need to say anything for it. Just carry on talking and walking if that's what you are doing and ever so often stop to taste a brief kiss.
Confidence as in the Knowing Kiss: Confidence can be flirty, feminine and annihilating. Here's how. When you have just met a man recently or been picked up for a date, act as though you know how the evening is going to end. Think of kisses and let him pick up on your mind and body signals. Look deep into his eyes, consciously flirt, and be very conscious of your body – your lips, your legs, your breasts and the effect they are having on him. Result: No man will be able to resist you. Let him savor a little before you draw back.
Intense Desire as in a Passionate Kiss: When you really want a man to know you mean business (ideally you should have kissed before) whisper hot, sexy statements in his ear, particularly if he's otherwise occupied like driving or cooking for you. 'You smell so good. Do you taste that way too'.
Silent Burn as in the Would Be Flammable Kiss: This one is best-kept quiet. Don't say a word at least not verbally, let your body do all the talking, as you brush your hand against his, or let your body soften into his. Or let your hair brush his body, arms linger against his muscular body, breasts whispering past his arms ... there are as many opportunities as there are ways to get his attention. Remember to keep an innocent expression, just let your eyes smolder.
Don't wait for opportunity to strike but make your own. There are no rules to follow accept the following:
Don't act embarrassing: Don't be loud, bitchy or act up in front of
people he might be uncomfortable with, like his parents, colleagues
Don't be repulsive: That means no kissing after eating Indian curry,
garlic, any other strong flavored foods or smoking (if he's a non smoker)
Don't drool: Don't let saliva drip into his mouth. Swallow it before you start to kiss.
Don't have too much lipstick on your lips: He wants to kiss you, not eat lipstick.
No French Kissing : No tongues on the first kiss, unless you want it. Remember you want him to come back for more, not have it all on the first date.
Create Your Own Kissing Opportunities
Don't wait for opportunity to strike, but create your own. For example, if you know he always goes for a walk at a certain time
to a certain place, you could manage to be there, just by chance.
Ask him for help with a project, or a favor – even if you don't need it. Make friends with his circle, so that you come to be an accepted part of the clique. Offer to run an errand for him.
Check out a movie together, or go to the library together. Basically, what you have to do is become familiar with his life style,
so that you can judge which is the best way of getting closer to him. Don't give away too much too soon. Don't kiss on the first date, instead let the anticipation build till later.
The kiss that is long awaited will be that much sweeter for its initial abstinence, then the kiss indulged in too quickly.
Words and Phrases around Kissing: Some good examples
Remember for a girl, kissing and sex is all in the mind. So words are an important element and an important part of the mix.
However at the same time, till your bodies are in sync, it is a good idea not to talk too much.
Say only what you really believe. A guy can smell a phony compliment from a mile off, so don't just say it unless you believe it
and it is relevant to the man in question.
For example if it pitch-dark and you can't even see him, you couldn't possibly comment on how green his eyes are or that you are drowning in them.
Anyway here are some winners to send you on your way:
1. You are so handsome.
2. I love the feel of your skin and the rasp of your beard.
3. I love the way your hair looks.
4. You have a great physique.
5. I could kiss you forever.
6. The thought of your lips on mine, drives me insane.
7. You smell so good and so sexy.
8. I am jealous of everyone you ever kissed (don't overdo this one).
9. Do you like being kissed slowly (kiss slow and light) or deeply (give him a deep, drugging kiss).
10. Do you like a woman kissing you first (and kiss him without waiting for an answer).
You get the idea...
Words and Phrases around Kissing: Some Bad examples
Nothing excites a man more than a bit of crudity now and then.
However it isn't a good idea in the initial phrases of a relationship.
Maybe later, if all goes well and you can try more of graphic phrases and actions.
But for the present and for initial kisses, avoid the following:
1. Don't say 'I love you' unless you mean it (even if you mean it, don't say it too soon)
2. Don't use crude male imagery till later in the relationship: words like,'I wanna fuck!' are a huge male turn on, but you want him around longer and you want him to think of you a person, not simply a pair of boobs and ass. So get his attention towards making love and not sex per se
3. Don't compare, 'You don't kiss as well as So and So, or you kiss better than So and So'
4. Don't pass comments like, 'I hate it when you do that' (anything that will put him on the defensive) Instead gently lure him away from what you don't like to what you like. Tell him loud and clear by actions and words – what you like.
5. Don't suddenly announce, 'You know what? I always wanted to kiss you'. (Sure it's flattering, but we want to keep him guessing and not spill all the beans)
Tone & Volume of Words - Kissing
When you are saying something romantic and sexy, whisper it in his ear or say it softly enough so only he can hear it. Even better if he has to lean down towards you to hear it. That's for when you are in public and maybe walking together with your hands linked.
When you are alone together, you can raise your volume but keep it soft and gentle, just loud enough to be heard easily. Don't talk loudly and coarsely, or make a big to do in public.
Low key confidence is the key.
For example, you could whisper a sexy comment in his ear and lightly nibble his ear, as you talk. Or you could finish your comment and gently bite his neck before breaking away. Or drop a kiss on the side of his cheekbone.
Just be creative and do what comes naturally.
Psychology of Words – After the Kissing Action
What should you say after kissing each other, maybe for the first time?
How about a simple Wow!
And a rueful smile, which connotes how carried away you got.
Unless you are really comfortable with your partner and know exactly what he wants to hear, it is better to keep it sweet and easy. So a simple smile, or just leaning softly into his arms when the kiss is over, is way better than a forced comment.
Or you could lean over and give him another small kiss and say something like, 'That's to keep me going till next time ...”