What is the very first thing that draws you to someone, the very first thing that will attract your gaze even across a crowded room.
All of us at sometime or the other, have felt a jolt of physical awareness when we look up to find ourselves being watched and lock eyes with the watcher.
Our body's response is instantaneous.
If a girl is attracted to the other person, the response can range from interest, to mild desire (a flutter of anticipation) to downright arousal (breasts tightening up, bolts of excitement streaking through the belly and of course getting wet - where it matters).
A lot of it is instinct: looking deep into someone's eyes is the start of the mating game and also mimics behavioral patterns that start the courtship dance.
Here's how you can learn to read the language of the eyes.
Eye Communication - tactical seduction...
The eyes mirror our emotions and feelings. With practice you can learn to read the message in them, especially once you get to know the person who is behind the eyes.
Eye communication can signal interest or disinterest, stop or go ahead and it is very important to be able to send and receive the right message.
However, one very important point: Remember how we discussed that woman don't like men who are too easy and are pushovers?
Keeping that in mind, use your eyes to telegraph your interest in someone, but if you are really attracted to her and she isn't, than guard your eyes behind a cool mask.
Don't let it all hang out. Remember to look cool, you have to be cool. So hood your eyes, hide your feelings and let flashes of desire escape now and then, before you pull down the blinds over your eyes.
Those intriguing glimpses of the 'real' you, will entice and excite a girl into discovering what lies behind the cool mask. Do you really like her and are hiding it, or is there genuine disinterest there.
Remember no girl can resist a challenge: play hard to get and you'll have her all over you!
Eye communication can convey everything and nothing, so learning to decipher this secret language is a must, especially if you want to be a successful kisser.
Looking directly at someone for a small period of time, without looking away signals the start of the game. It means you are interested.
If she looks back at you, or catches you looking at her (in the act so to speak) and still continues to look at you ever so often, though maybe very briefly, to see if you are still checking her out - than that means she is interested.
If she breaks eye contact and looks away quickly with maybe a look of disgust on her face, she is not interested.
If she doesn't want to meet your eyes and keeps looking away at everyone else but you, she is definitely not interested and you should stop wasting time and move on to the other (much talked about) fish in the sea.
It is the same, if the situation is reversed and you catch a chick checking you out. However, in this case your looking back at her, signals your interest, but remember what we said about being a challenge.
Don't give in too quickly, otherwise you are being too easy (believe it or not, we women, specially when we are teenagers like to collect scalps too. It is a power game to see how many men we can have at our feet and drooling over us. Therefore, Don't Drool and Don't Give In Too Soon).
Even when you have established your interest, remember to hood your eyes and keep her guessing. It will engage all her instincts and now she will be the one after you (No! Wait. Don't start swaggering yet!).
Appropriateness / Respect
Here is some major inside scoop on how not to look:
Don't stare too boldly. If she is squirming in her seat, tone it down. You don't want her to think that you are a stalker.
Don't undress her visually, especially in a public place. The only exception to that rule is as a prelude to lovemaking, when you are both hot for each other. Then it is a must, the slower the visual undressing, the better it is.
Don't eye other women when you are with her. It shows disrespect and any girl with an ounce of self esteem will send you packing.
Above all, show her that you are listening to her and value her as a human being. Not that she means nothing more to you, than tits, ass and lips (crude but you get the point I am sure).
Eye Contact and Kissing
Look into her eyes and don't break eye contact as you inch in closer. Don't close your eyes until your lips meet.
When in doubt follow her lead. That doesn't mean behavior that is unnatural.
If you have to look at her neck to place a kiss there, than by all means do so. But don't close your eyes before you kiss her. If she isn't looking back at you the same way or is staring over your shoulder, Stop! Maybe now is not the time to kiss her.
Ease off on the pressure and place a small one, on her forehead, or her hair and leave the lips for another day.
Let your eyes flutter shut, to enable you to feel all those delicious sensations even more strongly. Go with the flow and open them if you need to see how your partner is responding and whether she is with it as much as you are. Otherwise eyes closed, is the way to go.
Open your eyes and look deep into hers. See what her eyes have to tell you. Are they alert or are they bemused. The more confused she looks, the better it is.
You can also check to see if she is unsuccessfully trying to dampen down on passion. If all the signals are good, you can carry on locking eyes at her and creating your own little world, where hands touch, eyes meet eyes and lips kiss!